what therapy looks like with me
this is a place where you don’t have to pretend you’re okay.
Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you, fixing a situation, or telling you what you should do. It’s a place to slow things down and make sense of what you’ve been carrying — without pressure to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or have it all figured out.
Many of the people I work with have spent a long time holding things together. They’re used to managing their reactions, staying composed, and putting their own needs last — often in relationships or family dynamics that required constant adjustment. By the time they arrive, they’re tired, unsure what they need, and not used to feeling like there’s room for them — or that they’re allowed to take up space.
Our work starts by slowing things down. We pay attention to what your body and nervous system have been holding, and begin to understand your emotional responses in a way that feels steady and manageable.
This is a space where you don’t have to stay on high alert or walk on eggshells.
You don’t have to carefully manage your reactions, second-guess yourself, or keep everything contained. There is room here for whatever you might be carrying — grief, anger, guilt, relief, confusion, or exhaustion — whether it comes from trauma, relationships, family dynamics, or experiences that are still ongoing.
what therapy is not
Many people come into therapy with understandable worries — about being judged, pushed, or told what they should do.
This section is here to be clear about what you won’t be asked to do.
This is not a place where you’ll be told what you should do about a relationship or situation in your life — whether that’s setting boundaries, creating distance, staying, leaving, forgiving, or letting go.
This is not about fixing another person or learning how to manage someone else’s behavior better.
This is not a space where you’ll be judged for your feelings or reactions — including anger, resentment, ambivalence, relief, or staying in situations longer than others think you should.
This is not about being pushed to “move on” from something that may still be unresolved, ongoing, or complicated.
This is not about reliving everything all at once or being overwhelmed in the process. We move at a pace that respects your nervous system.
This is not a one-size-fits-all approach or a checklist for how you’re supposed to heal “the right way.”
how our work unfolds
Therapy doesn’t follow a rigid formula. Early sessions are about getting to know each other and building enough trust to feel settled. From there, we can start talking about what’s been weighing on you and what kind of support feels right.
Some sessions involve talking things through. Others focus more on noticing what’s happening in your body, learning ways to steady your nervous system, or making sense of patterns that keep showing up. We pay attention to what feels helpful and adjust as we go.
Over time, the work often becomes less about trying to figure everything out and more about feeling steadier in yourself. therapy and life outside of sessions may begin to feel less effortful — in how you react, how you relate, and how you trust your own responses. There’s no timeline you’re expected to follow — we move at a pace that respects what your system is able to handle.
if you’re considering reaching out —
If you’re unsure about therapy, that’s okay. Many people reach out feeling tired, uncertain, or not quite sure what they need yet.
If you decide to reach out, we’ll start with a brief conversation about what’s been going on and what you’re hoping for. You can ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and decide whether it feels like a good fit. There’s no pressure to commit —
we will take things one step at a time.